In-law issues

I have heard that the most difficult of family relationships are between a mother and her daughter in law. This has been true in my life. My mother in law is a wonderful and faithful woman but is very strong in her options and will not deviate or compromise. I am fairly easy going but this has caused some contention between us. However, I see it more in the problems that have come up with the other daughters in law who are more opinionated. I have learned that it is very important to cleave unto your spouse and be united in your goals before turning towards your extended family members for advice or companionship. In the article we read about how difficult it can be to decide where you will spend your holidays. This was a problem for the first couple of years of my marriage. Both families would always end up being frustrated with us for not spending enough time with them. This is when we realized we just needed to do what was best for us and stop trying to please everyone else, because it was impossible and unnecessary.